Welcome beautiful soul, I’m Ally B!

My Story

I am the classic tale of a young girl who desperately wanted to be good. 

I followed all of the rules, I overextended myself to please others, and I learned to ignore my heart and make decisions based on what I “should” do.

I felt like nothing I did was ever good enough. I was always trying and trying, checking off one accomplishment after another. From the outside looking in, I had a great life. Successful career, nice house and car, in a relationship that was heading towards marriage. I thought I should be happy by now, but something deep within me wanted MORE.  

I wanted to be truly seen, to be truly heard, for someone in this world to love and accept me completely for being exactly the way that I am. But it was too scary, too real, too vulnerable to show the world the real me. I didn’t want to keep putting myself in a position for others to hurt me, to reject me, to abandon me and learned over time it was simply easier to tuck the real me away. 

Soon enough, I became a miserable robot. A zombie. A shell of the person I used to be. Nevertheless, I kept my head down, convinced my suffering was my fault and that if I were to just work a little bit harder, I would earn the peace I so desperately craved. 

When I learned about feminine and masculine energies, I slowly began to come back to life. I felt like myself for the first time ever.

Masculine energy is our giving energy, our serving, producing, achieving energy. 

This is your drive, your passion, your ferocity in protecting the ones you love.

Feminine energy is our receiving, being, and resting energy.

This is your creativity, your sensuality, your ability to flow through life with ease. 

At first, I didn’t buy into the concept at all. I could not get past feminine energy being the receiving energy when I felt like I had been giving so much of myself all of my life. I was convinced that giving HAD to be a feminine quality. I mean, ALL of the women I had ever witnessed seemed to be giving and giving and giving more and more of themselves all the time. How could that possibly be masculine energy?

And then, I started thinking…

If we all have both energies within us, and giving energy is masculine energy, then maybe that is why I feel like something is missing in my life? Maybe I need more feminine energy?

This thought sparked an exploration into my feminine energy. I started expressing my creativity again: painting and dancing and allowing myself the freedom to be imperfect. I started meditating and learned how to sink into my body, listen to the wisdom there, and send love to every single part of me (especially the parts I or society had labeled bad or wrong). I learned to forgive myself, to reparent my inner children, and to honor my emotions as sacred messengers from my subconscious.

And one day, the shift hit me completely as I had received the truth of what I was searching for in every cell of my body:

Everything that I need is already inside of me. 

I literally laughed out loud as the truth of this realization sank into my body.

I realized that I`d been searching for something that already existed within me. I`d been trying to find a person, a job, a home, a perfect checklist of accomplishments to earn me the feeling of being loved, safe, held and accepted.

I was already enough. Already worthy of the love I was trying to earn. And I had the power within me the whole time to feel it.

My life began to shift. I began to slow down, live intentionally, and pursue the life of my wildest dreams. I started demanding more respect in my personal relationships by showing up authentically, by just being me, without trying to impress anyone or earn their approval.

I learned that our external relationships are a reflection of our internal one. When we start to love and accept ourselves, everything in our life changes instantly and naturally.

And the hardest part is learning to trust ourselves to navigate that change.

Inspired by my own healing journey, I have made it my mission to guide others in accessing the unconditional love and acceptance within so that they can live in a way that inspires, motivates, empowers, and excites them.

So you can boldly pursue the life you actually want to spend your time on this Earth LIVING.

If you are like me and are feeling that pull for MORE, the whispers (or screams) from your soul that it is time for MAJOR change, there is a reason you’ve landed on this page.

My private container, Embrace Change, is a program I designed for the old me. It is the program I wish I had access to when I was miserable and desperate for change and scared out of my mind to make the leap. I want to teach you all of the tools I have learned and in a way that you feel supported and held throughout your journey. We will work closely over eight weeks to cultivate your safe space within: a space you can choose to tune to in any moment to remind yourself you are safe, loved, valued, and free.

For ongoing support or if one-0n-one prices are not in the budget yet, I’d love to see you inside Returning. This somatic healing sisterhood is co-lead by my best friend Katie, an amazingly gifted trauma-informed breathwork facilitator and all-around kick-ass human. We have packed so much value into this sisterhood and have purposefully kept the price CRAZY LOW: 0ur top priority is making sure this work is accessible to ANY woman who is ready.

And if you aren’t quite ready yet (or looking for free resources only) sign up for my weekly love letter. You’ll get an inspiring message to your inbox each week plus updates on me! I also recommend you follow @allybcoaching and @returningsisterhood on TikTok. We share a wealth of information there as well!

XOXO

Ally B